A cheeky post…
We are designed as relational beings.
We need to be in all kinds of relationships in order to get any traction on this healing journey of self-discovery. Our friends, parents, children, lovers, ex’s, neighbors and everyone else under the sun are all our mirrors for the purpose of providing us reflection so we can better see and know our Self.
I spent years thinking I could do it alone if I just meditated hard enough, journaled hard enough, or read enough self-help books. I got pretty far on my own but I just kept hitting a ceiling. It was my inflated ego that believed I could heal all my wounding and trauma alone. There was also a fear of being seen in my “incomplete” state that held me back from getting support. I had so much pride!
Eventually I got over that attitude and got lots of help over a few years. But then another trap surfaced - after that intensive period of getting external support I felt that since I’ve done tons of therapy and tons of plant medicine and worked through so much that I didn’t need any help anymore. I’ve graduated and can go back to doing it all alone, right?
Do either of these examples sound familiar to you?
No matter how “far along” I feel on my journey, periodic support from a skilled mirror is always helpful. The insight, healing and expansion I access when I go to therapy is like a huge weight lifted.
I don’t have to carry it alone.
I don’t have to figure it out alone, or move through it alone, or grieve it alone.
Working through my material with others is not only more fruitful, but it also makes the journey less lonely. We are designed to need each other on the Path, and thank goodness too.
Seek out the mirrors in your life who reflect with compassion and skillful insight.
You don’t have to do this journey alone.
in devotion,
Kadhi
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